Family & Relationships Perspective | The sex talk isn’t enough: How parents can teach teens about healthy relationships

20:06  17 may  2017
20:06  17 may  2017 Source:

The Daily Dish: Oreo-Flavored Beer Is Here

  The Daily Dish: Oreo-Flavored Beer Is Here Oreo-Flavored Beer Is Here The Veil Brewing Company in Richmond, Virginia, knows that a way to a beer-lover’s heart is through the cookie pantry, and has created The Hornswoggler, a milk chocolate stout made from “hundreds of pounds of Oreos.” Study Says Teens in Poor Families Go Hungry Before Younger Children When food is scarce in a household, how do parents distribute their minimal food supply? According to a new study by Johns Hopkins University, parents are the first to skip out on meals and often feed younger children first, leaving teens twice as likely to go hungry. "If you're really poor, you try to sacrifice yourself first, but when you're forced to make some choices, these parents are deciding to let the teens not have enough — if they have to give up on something, they're giving up on teenagers," Robert Moffitt, Johns Hopkins University economist and lead author of the study, said. "It's hard to imagine parents having to do that.

These perspectives offer sociologists theoretical paradigms for explaining how society influences people, and vice versa. A sociological approach in functionalism is the consideration of the relationship between the functions of smaller parts and the functions of the whole.

6. The developmental perspective focuses on how human behavior unfolds across the life course. 7. The social behavioral perspective suggests that human behavior is learned as individuals inter-act with their environments. As the family talks about their problems and possible solutions, the social

  Perspective | The sex talk isn’t enough: How parents can teach teens about healthy relationships © iStock

Parents fret for years about having “the talk” with their kids. That talk, of course, being about sex. But one thing that is getting very lost in those conversations is how to have a healthy romantic relationship. It’s not enough to have the sex talk, we have to have the love talk, too. Without it, we risk our kids being in abusive, manipulative relationships, or missing out on a truly wonderful aspect of life.

According to a report released today by Harvard Graduate School of Education’s Making Caring Common Project, parents worry a great deal about the hookup culture, but ignore the fact that young people are unprepared to learn how to love and develop caring, healthy romantic relationships.

'13 Reasons Why' gives parents a chance to discuss suicide with teens

  '13 Reasons Why' gives parents a chance to discuss suicide with teens The popular new Netflix series about a teen's suicide may help parents answer the question, "What could we have done to stop it?"This year, my community in Nampa, Idaho, has been hit with the tragedy of teen suicide not once, but twice.

Talk about a universal theme, right?! Before every student had access to a laptop, I taught this lesson the old-fashioned way: with paper and pencil. The second paragraph should be written from the parents ’ perspective , but also in first person.

In the conflict perspective , the view is less of a unified system and more of an environment of conflict struggles and clashes of power. Instead, a conflict-driven society is run by the powerful ones who exert control over the rest of the population and set the tone for how things are to be done.

“This whole area has been terribly neglected,” says Richard Weissbourd, a Harvard psychologist who runs the Making Caring Common project. Without conversations about healthy relationships, parents are also neglecting to teach their children about misogyny and sexual harassment. “Adults seem not to be facing it squarely. It’s concerning,” Weissbourd adds.

If parents think kids don’t want to hear it from them, they should reconsider: 70 percent of the 18- to 25-year-olds who responded to the report’s survey said they wanted more information from parents about some emotional aspect of a romantic relationship. And 65 percent said they wanted guidance about it in a sex ed or health class at school. But both parents and educators seem to focus on abstinence, how not to get pregnant or how to avoid a sexually transmitted disease. In doing so, parents are missing out on having important conversations about how to love and be loved.

Are You An Emotional Eater? Blame Mom And Dad

  Are You An Emotional Eater? Blame Mom And Dad New research has found that emotional eating is often learned during childhood when parents soothe upset children with food. Though the eating habit can have serious consequences, it can be reversed.The study, now published online in Child Development, found that children who were offered food by their parents as a source of comfort were likely to have developed emotional eating habits by the time they were eight to 10. In addition, children of parents who emotionally ate were likely to mimic their parent’s eating habits and develop this unhealthy habit as they grew.

* How did this perspective make you see things differently? How can perspective add to, enhance, or change a story? Summary Perspective tells us either what lens or who is telling the story.

The functionalist perspective emphasizes the interconnectedness of society by focusing on how each part influences and is influenced by other parts. For example, the increase in single- parent and dual-earner families has contributed to the number of children who are failing in school because parents

Here, Weissbourd and the report’s authors offer five ways to teach kids and young adults about healthy relationships:

Be a romantic philosopher

Why? Young people and adults mean very different things when they say they’re in love. Because our understandings of love are vague and varied, young people may confuse love with infatuation, lust, idolization or obsession. They may think, for example, that they are in love with someone because they can’t stop thinking about them. Or they may confuse love with the boost in self-esteem they experience when someone is romantically interested in them.

Try this: Speak with your teen about the many forms of love. Explain what you mean when you say that you are in love with someone. Let your child understand that they may define being in love differently than someone else and that there is no right definition of being in love. But there are ways of knowing whether intense feelings for someone else are likely to lead to healthy or unhealthy romantic relationships. Explore with your teen why and how love can be deeply meaningful and change the course of our lives.

These Adorable Triplets Are Beating the Odds and Overcoming Their Rare Birth Defect

  These Adorable Triplets Are Beating the Odds and Overcoming Their Rare Birth Defect <p>When first-time parents Amy and Mike Howard of Center Moriches, New York, arrived at their obstetrician's office for a routine checkup last year, the last thing they expected to hear was that they were about to become mom and dad to a set of triplets.</p>"I was kind of a little bit in shock," Mike told TODAY.

Chapter 1. The Ecosystems Perspective : Implications for Practice. Mark A. Mattaini and Carol H. Meyer. Social work involves, at its core, work with interconnected transactional networks.

Fortunately, it is very possible to teach a child to take the perspective of others. Point out the emotions of others. Show the child when another child is crying and talk about how he feels and why he feels that way.

Also: Ask your child how they think about different types of intense feelings toward someone. Talk about how people can be attracted to, or preoccupied with, other people for a range of positive and negative reasons, and discuss the importance of understanding why your teen might be attracted to someone else. Are they attracted to someone at least partly because they’re kind, generous and honest? Or are they attracted to someone because that person is elusive, seems unattainable or mistreats them in some way? Discussing these questions can give them tools for determining whether a relationship is likely to be healthy or unhealthy.

Talk about the markers of healthy and unhealthy relationships

Why? Teens may not know whether they’re in a healthy or unhealthy relationship. They also may be unsure if their worries, feelings of disappointment or criticisms of their partner are normal.

Try this:Examples of both healthy and unhealthy relationships are everywhere. Talk to your teen about couples you both know, and representations of relationships in the media. Which are healthy? Which are harmful? Why? If your teen is in a relationship, you might ask whether it makes them more or less self-respecting, hopeful, caring and generous.

People Who Talk to Themselves Might Be Smarter, Expert Says

  People Who Talk to Themselves Might Be Smarter, Expert Says <p>There's no need to be ashamed of babbling to yourself - in fact, it might be a sign of higher cognitive functioning.</p>In a recent article for Science of Us, Dr. Mari-Beffa wrote about research she conducted in January 2012 on how reading directions out loud affects a person's ability to complete a task. In the small study, she asked 28 participants to either read a list of instructions silently or out loud to themselves and then complete the task described to them.

Stereotyping From the Perspective of Perceivers and Targets. Introduction. Defining concepts such as prejudice, stereotypes, and racism helps us to think about how they relate to each other and how they may influence social interactions.

I talk over him, interrupt him, and coerce him. Another way to think about perspective taking is to examine how we take steps as the adult with more power to understand the child’s perspective . When we “ teach ” children perspective taking through the use of power or force, they aren’ t learning

Talk about the skills needed to maintain healthy relationships

Why?Maintaining healthy relationships requires a range of skills, including the ability to communicate honestly and effectively, to jointly solve problems, to measure anger and to be generous. Healthy relationships also benefit from being able to take someone else’s perspective in a deep way and to step back and view the relationship and its dynamics, strengths and challenges.

Try this: Discuss with your child various examples of caring, vibrant relationships. These examples might be relatives or friends who you think have mature romantic relationships, or could be couples portrayed in books, television, movies. You might watch with your teen the compelling marriages depicted in shows such as “This Is Us,” “Black-ish” and “Friday Night Lights.”

Consider sharing lessons from your own relationships

Why?We can mine our experiences for insights about mature and immature love, and why relationships do and don’t work. Teens are often interested in our experiences, partly because they’re sorting out how they’re like or unlike us.

Try this:Think about what your relationships have taught you. What was healthy about them? Unhealthy? What attitudes or behaviors would you change if you could? Share with your teen any lessons you’ve learned about the skills, attitudes and sensitivities that it takes to maintain a healthy romantic relationship.

Teen Drinking Reaches Lowest Point in 25 Years, CDC Says

  Teen Drinking Reaches Lowest Point in 25 Years, CDC Says Underage drinking has reached a new low, but binge drinking is still a problem.Despite the overall decrease, researchers said binge drinking is still a problem among teenagers. Of those teens who reported drinking, 57.8% said they had five drinks in a row, and 43.8% said they had drunk at least eight drinks in one sitting.

22 “NAILING AN ALLEGED CRUCIFIXION SCENARIO1 A Dad's Perspective : Why I Tell My Daughters to Dress Fri, 26 Jul 2013 16:05:00 GMT Obviously, I'm not a woman and can' t comment from that perspective

Engage young people in ethical questions connected to romantic and sexual relationships

Why?High school and college students enthusiastically plunge into ethical questions about romantic relationships: What do I do if I know my friend is cheating on his girlfriend who is also my friend?Is it exploitation when a senior hooks up with a first year? Reflecting on such questions can help young people develop better relationships, but also help them develop complex thinking and problem-solving skills, and learn to ethically reason when dealing with conflicting loyalties, and take up questions about human rights and dignity.

Try this:Together with your child, puzzle through answers to ethical questions. Start by listening to how your teen would answer these questions, then share your own thoughts. Often there is not one right answer. Consider how to resolve these dilemmas in ways that are as fair, honest and caring for all people involved.

Related: 10 Tips For Handling Parenting Advice You Never Asked For (Provided by Working Mother)

We working moms can handle career advice, but when it comes to advice about our babies, well ...  A new job—the advice you get is mostly easy to take. A new baby, not so much. The abundance of unsolicited “expertise” you’re offered comes from all kinds of sources, and it can make you frustrated and confused. Here, 10 ideas to help you handle everyone’s unwanted advice and find more confidence in your own parenting decisions. 10 Tips for Handling Parenting Advice You Never Asked For

6 ways schools and parents can teach kids about love

How To Raise Financially Literate Millennial Children .
Here's how to talk to your kids about money, and when it's time to finally cut them off.Shutterstock

—   Share news in the SOC. Networks

Topical videos:

This is interesting!