Family & Relationships The Worst Thing You Can Do After a Breakup - and What to Try Instead

18:16  10 october  2017
18:16  10 october  2017 Source:   PopSugar

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The Worst Thing You Can Do After a Breakup — and What to Try Instead . And according to Elle Huerta, CEO and founder of breakup app Mend, there's one thing above all you should never do postbreakup.

Trying to get revenge after a breakup is one of the worst things you can do (not just for your ex, but for you , as well). Instead , you want to come off looking mature and classy, so take the high road and let your revenge wishes go.

Worst Thing to Do After a Breakup© Unsplash / Gianandrea Villa Worst Thing to Do After a Breakup Overpartying, revenge sex, and self-isolation are just some of the unhealthy ways to go about a breakup. When you're at your lowest, you stop caring about what's good or bad for you and allow yourself to fall into destructive behavior. And according to Elle Huerta, CEO and founder of breakup app Mend, there's one thing above all you should never do post-breakup.

"I think there are so many breakup vices, and we've all been victims of them; drinking too much or partying or just kind of avoiding your feelings and emotions," Elle told us. "But I think one of the worst things is having really negative self-talk."

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Top 5 worst things you can do after a breakup . Your ex has already hurt you enough; there is no reason to put yourself in a risky situation, or one that you will regret in order to try to replace loneliness with instant gratification.

These are the 10 things you definitely shouldn't do after a breakup . And once you sober up , Women’s Health says all that alcohol will just leave you feeling worse . Drinking away the pain is not the way to move on, so try keeping yourself busy with healthier habits.

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She continued to explain how the absence of self-love and compassion is one of the most common results of a breakup.

"A breakup does not mean that you are unlovable or fatally flawed."

"A breakup does not mean that you are unlovable or fatally flawed," she said. "It's a really unhealthy thing to believe about yourself, and it's also very untrue. I definitely think some of the external vices are destructive, but I think some of the self-talk that we engage in after a breakup can be even more destructive."

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But instead , he walks away. So, how the hell do you get back to being yourself after a breakup ? Here are the seven breakup commandments Burying your emotions and refusing to acknowledge them is the worst thing you can do in such a vulnerable situation.

But even after the worst breakup , we sleep at night, don't we? Trust me; it's okay. It is a difficult thing to do , I agree. But most of us don't even get close to trying . A post- breakup period is the peak of demotivation, late-night sad songs and bad addictions.

We tend to forget the impact the conversations we have with ourselves can have on our psyche. Self-love is always a critical habit to maintain, but even more so when we're in such a vulnerable state like the end of a relationship. We need to take care of ourselves holistically in terms of our bodies, mental health, and emotional state.

10 Divorce Lawyers Reveal the Most Insane Secrets Couples Have Hidden from One Another 10 Divorce Lawyers Reveal the Most Insane Secrets Couples Have Hidden from One Another Social media can also be such a toxic part of that healing process, so Elle suggests taking a break for a short period of time following your breakup. You won't feel better seeing your ex's photos in your feed and you'll most likely be tempted to see what they're up to at all times. But because social media is so ingrained in our daily lives, Elle also understands that completely unplugging is not a realistic option for most.

"I just recommend that people take time to carefully consider who they're following and who they're not following," she said. "Make sure that you're not following your ex but that you're following sources that are very inspirational - people and accounts that make you feel good."

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So, instead of moving on too quickly, here are the things you should do after a breakup : 1. Reflect on your failed relationship. Being able to trust someone with your heart after a bad breakup isn't easy.

After a breakup , you don’t like yourself very much, and for whatever reason, instead of helping After my first breakup , I didn’t do any of the right things . I took the advice my friends tried to give me The worst thing you can do while your world is falling apart is to remind yourself that theirs isn’t.

Just as you wouldn't surround yourself with bad company IRL, apply that same attitude on screen. And don't forget to be kind to yourself.

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You both deserve more. 1. You don't see a future with him. What he wants for his future and what you want for yourself are not the same. Both of you are growing and wanting to go in different directions. He is sweetly persuading you to compromise your goals to align with him, but you can feel in your bones that it's not the right thing to do. And you know better not to prioritize someone's dreams over yours.2. You feel alone in your relationship.You feel trapped whenever you're beside him. It's like you don't know who you are anymore because he keeps asking you to change for him.

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